Steve Jobs knew everything there was to know about his family after meeting his mother and sister in 1982. His mother does not appear to have responded in a particularily “motherly” fashion when she was reunited with her long lost son and perhaps Steve was not being harsh but 100% literate when he said …
“They were my sperm AND egg bank. That’s not harsh, it’s just the way it was, a sperm bank thing, nothing more.” – Steve Jobs
After learning everything about Jandali and the circumstances of his birth from them in 1982, Steve visited the coffee shop owned by Jandali, the Syrian man he had learned was his father, hoping from some acknowledgment.
“I was in the restaurant once or twice and I remember meeting the owner who was from Syria. And it was most certainly him. And I shook his hand and he shook my hand. And that’s all.”
But Steve’s dad Jandali refused to acknowledge their relationship. In Jandali’s own words…
“This might sound strange, though, but I am not prepared, even if either of us was on our deathbeds, to pick up the phone to call him … Steve will have to do that, as the Syrian pride in me does not want him ever to think I am after his fortune.” – Steve’s father Jandali
Jandali: Hello, Mr. Jobs. It’s a pleasure to meet you. I feel like we’ve met before. You look so familiar. Did you know that I once had a boy who would be about your age? When he was born we signed away our rights to the Jobs family. Is it possible? …. nah, couldn’t be.
Steve: Hello, Mr. Jandali. This is the second time I’ve come to this restaurant hoping that you would reach out and acknowledge our relationship, and maybe show some expression of love to me, your son.
Jandali: Sorry son! I am a Muslim and you are only … , er uh … anyway, as I told the press, even if you were on your death bed I would not do that because of my Islamic pride.
Jandali’s Islamic pride – “He was a GREAT tipper!”
Later when his sister Mona visited Jandali, Steve “asked her to not tell him that we’d ever met, and not tell him anything about me.”
“Mona goes to the coffee shop, meets this guy Mr Jandali who’s running it, who says among other things when she asks, how sorry he is.
“Then he said that he had had another child. Mona said: ‘What happened to him?’ and he said: ‘Oh, I don’t know, we’ll never hear from him AGAIN’.”
Mr Jandali then said that he wished Miss Simpson could have seen him running his old Mediterranean restaurant, which he said was “one of the best in Silicon Valley”.
“Everyone used to eat there,” he said. “Even Steve Jobs.”
As Miss Simpson stayed silent but “looked shocked”, Mr Jandali added: “Yeah, he was a great tipper!”
When was the previous time that Jandali had heard from Steve?
Steve confirmed that his parents knew the identities of the adoptive parents when they signed the adoption papers.
“My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.”